• Sonia

Well, that was an interesting flight.....

I recently completed my year-long yoga teacher training course in Byron Bay, NSW, Australia and had to think about heading back to Europe in order to plant some roots whilst deciding what to do next.

After booking with 4 different airlines to leave Australia, I finally sat down in my aircraft seat a week ago heading to Europe. (I'm not going to moan about how difficult it was finding a flight to leave Australia, despite the apparent abundance of flights available, the travel vouchers given out when flights were cancelled and the hugely delayed refund schemes).

I am used to long-haul flights, therefore, the prospect of flying for 27 hours didn't really faze me; however, having to wear a face mask - which until I left on 15th July were virtually non-existent in Australia - AND a visor for the entire journey - apart from the final hour long flight from Germany to Switzerland - was an experience I didn't really enjoy.

This made me think about what we, as parents, will do to take care of our babies, either during this Covid-19 period or at any period during their first couple of years of life.

There is, of course, so much conflicting advice about how to take care of our babies.

Timed feeds or feed on demand; co-sleeping or put them into their own sleeping space; letting them cry themselves to sleep or pick them up and cuddle as soon as they whimper/ leave them strapped to your chest as long as possible; disinfect everything or don't disinfect everything and allow natural resistance against bacteria to occur; weaning as soon as possible or breastfeeding/ bottle-feeding as long as possible; listen to others advice, read books or follow your instincts. And the list goes on! There are hundreds of parenting books - focused on practical and psychological advice so we can't go wrong, can we?

But, all babies are different and all parents are different. Of course it's a good idea to have a basic understanding of what a baby's immediate needs are - to be fed, cuddled and kept clean and warm - but beyond that it's really about what feels instinctively right for you (and your baby). If it doesn't feel right, don't do it! It really is as simple as that. If you are confused, then seek advice, do some reading, ask around, then choose that piece of advice that feels right and suits you and your baby.

In all my years working with new parents, I have tried to help them reach inwards and listen to their instincts; if a parent has a healthy relationship with their child, they won't / can't do harm to their baby.

I know you've probably heard this before but taking a deep breath before reacting really does go a long way to helping to calm down a situation, whether that's with you, your partner or your baby or someone in a supermarket queue who is moaning about physical distancing and the reality of the Covid virus!

Teaching Baby Massage allows me to become closer to parents and to enable them to share their fears and highs of parenting. New parents can (initially) be quite hesitant to massage their babies in case they do something wrong. It's never happened (to me), and I've seen hesitant, under confident parents blossom in class and become supremely confident with their babies as they allow their instincts to be their guide.

Now that I am back in Europe, and having become so used to using Zoom, I am running live-streaming Zoom classes for individuals and groups. Drop me a message and let's start some massage together.

© 2020 by Sonia Deighton